​

 

​

NARM – Healing Through Connection

 

NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model) is a therapeutic approach designed to address early wounds, attachment, and developmental trauma. Developed by Dr. Laurence Heller, it integrates modern trauma and nervous system work with a deep relational orientation.

 

The focus is not on what happened in the past, but on how we continue – often unconsciously – to respond to it today.

Old survival strategies that were once necessary can now prevent us from living freely and in connection.

 

There are five core developmental themes essential for healthy development:

 

1. Connection

We feel a sense of belonging in the world, are connected to our bodies and emotions, and capable of forming stable relationships with others.

 

 

2. Attunement

We know what we need, recognize the abundance life offers, reach for it, and allow ourselves to receive it.

 

 

3. Trust

We have a basic trust in ourselves and in others. We feel safe enough to allow healthy interdependence.

 

 

4. Autonomy

We can say no and set boundaries. We express our opinions without guilt or fear.

 

 

5. Love and Sexuality

Our hearts are open, and we are able to integrate loving relationships with vibrant sexuality.

 

 

When these areas are disrupted in early development, our system creates protective mechanisms – often unconsciously.

These can later lead to feelings of emptiness, self-doubt, relationship difficulties, or physical tension.

 

How does NARM work?

 

NARM supports people in connecting mindfully and resourcefully with their inner experience – without needing to revisit the past. The work takes place in the present moment and helps the nervous system re-regulate. This opens the door to greater aliveness, self-contact, and genuine connection.

 

​